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One of my weakest points over the years has been the lack of boundaries. Or rather, establishing them only when I'm in crisis and on the verge of breaking down. However, this year has particularly taught me just how crucial it is to set boundaries for myself, to understand my capabilities, and also my responsibilities (I tend to take on too much responsibility, even for others). It's very easy to take on too much and then become overwhelmed by obligations - but coming out of that healthy has been a pretty difficult task for me, and I'm extremely glad that I could come to therapy with you. But why did I decide to come? Because at one point, it clicked that I couldn't continue like this anymore. In the last 2 years, I have burned out 3 (!!) times. This mainly manifested in the inability to find joy in things (which had always brought joy before), the lack of desire to sleep (because I didn't want the next day with all its obligations to arrive), I've been easily irritated (unfortunately, mainly towards family members), if someone approached me with any request, I got irritated because I felt like I COULDN'T HANDLE IT ANYMORE AND DIDN'T WANT TO (that's exactly how I screamed - in my head, of course). I cried at work for completely random reasons. While I had managed to come out of those situations before, the last burnout occurred and hasn't 'dissipated' completely yet. The final straw was when I realized I wanted to drink alcohol every day. My only thought was that when I got home from work, I would drink a glass (or 2) of wine and everything would get better. My mood would change, I would be a better mother, wife, and person because I could relax even a little. Yes, I didn't drink every day because I know how quickly addiction can arise. But the feeling that I needed it so badly became quite disturbing for me, and fortunately, a bell started ringing in my head. Before coming to therapy, I was quite anxious. I had tried other forms of therapy before, and I was afraid of two things - the changes that come with therapy (or don't come) and recovery. However, the surprise was huge when the changes that came were only positive and not overly drastic, and the recovery was very easy. Of course, it was greatly supported by the fact that the therapist was you because you are 100% trustworthy, and I know that you do your work with tremendous passion and dedication. You truly believe in and see the changes that therapy brings. I knew clearly that if I wanted my life to change permanently, I had to commit to it and consciously make slightly different choices than I had made so far. While the therapy session was both exciting and painful to delve into my childhood memories and change my beliefs about myself and certain situations, the post-session recording gives each day such a good and positive charge and helps reinforce those new beliefs every day. I diligently listened to all those 21 days of recording, often even twice - in the morning and in the evening. And one of the strangest things was that I heard something new for myself every time - honestly, it was absolutely incredible. Like peeling an onion layer by layer, you hear exactly what you need to hear at that moment, and it helped so much! The changes didn't happen immediately. It took about 2 weeks for a new click to happen within me. Inner strength emerged. I came to understand that I am an adult Woman who can stand up for myself, I can loudly say if something doesn't suit me or makes me feel uncomfortable or bad in any way. I don't depend on anyone. I can say 'no' if I feel like something is too much. Thanks to this, other symptoms described above started to dissipate. Are they completely gone? No. I'm still learning. I stumble and then try again, but the feeling of inner strength has remained, and it helps me stand up again. The other change is related to the need for alcohol consumption. It's gone!! That doesn't mean I don't consume alcohol at all, but I completely lack the daily need and desire to do so. That obsession is gone, and that is the real victory of this therapy! It shows that although I still sometimes stumble in setting my boundaries, my life is so much less stressful and more enjoyable that it's quite easy for me to find other outlets in those difficult situations than drinking alcohol. I feel like I've gotten out of that loop by now, and it brings me so much joy! I absolutely recommend everyone to try this form of therapy at least once. We all have more painful topics that need attention, and you don't have to be in crisis for that. Rather, do some preventive work. In my opinion, this is one way of pampering yourself because experiencing such lightness within yourself is true bliss! Thank you, Eliana, for choosing to be a therapist who helps heal painful places and helps experience real joy and expansion.